the pod is back, thanks so much for listening last time!
this time, i got to chop it up with comedian, actor, dancer, soon to be author, tik tok star, ibs expert, and pioneer of real hot boy shit culture joey dardano aka yung caps lock 🧢🔒
the life of the party, your favorite hot boy’s favorite hot boy, joey came through to talk about tik tok fame, amc a-list, performing an identity onstage and for the check, and refining his craft through talking about vulnerability on stage. it’s joey like you’ve never heard him before, on god. tap tap tap in 🎧
pop out and see the kid’s show at the asylum nyc on march 10! real hot boy shit 🙏🏾
happy belated birthday bianca, your heart is true, you’re a goofball and a confidant ✨
big ups to volodomyr zelenskyy, you really reppin your set, potentially the only comedian with “fuck around and find out” energy, nothing but respect 🇺🇦
shining a light on african immigrants trying to leave ukraine rn seeking asylum, a reminder that this racism shit is global (ppl really want refugees to be one color only) 🖤
shout out james iii and kat for having a lil baby on the way!!!! 🍼
big ups cam and leah, glad y’all connected 🤝
big ups, maria, jah, and grace (iykyk, new shit soon come) 🖤🎨
as always, all my love to maria, te amo mucho ❤️❤️❤️
shout out to xanax, you that bitch for real 💊
big ups to the 2022 sundance screenwriting intensive class, y’all really helped me clear my soul this week and there’s no writing crossfit teacher like joan. michelle, ilyse, zack, shira, jon, nisha, and andrea, thanks for cultivating the space to write from the heart and not the head ☀️💃🏽
big ups to my dad who stopped by in the city and said something that had ya boy crying in the bathtub 🥲
“when you graduated from college with a degree in neuroscience, i was proud of you. when you became a teacher, I was proud of you. but when you told us you wanted to tell stories and do comedy, I was more proud of you because you choosing what you want to do with your life and going after it meant that we did our job as parents right.”
i’ll never forget that convo, pop. thank you ❤️
officially julia garner hive
sounds so soulless don’t you agree
astrology is just gang shit based on what day you were born lowkey
free hook for a rapper: throw it back for a scooby snack (x8)
the pen is nice, the hands are nicer
🎶if pisces & crips, all got along, geminis would gun me down by the end of this song🎶
*points to mirror* look a clown
don’t appropriate honk honk culture
i find it funny how non-clowns come onto clown twitter and steal clown content and hhve (honk honk vernacular english), we see you boo
life hack: if you fought on the drug side of the war on drugs, you are a veteran, enjoy boarding planes before everyone ✨
we need limewire for emotions, I need crankdatdopamine dot wav effective immediately
pushing 🅿️anafricanism
🎶bend down where you from nigga, fuck who you know what’s your sign my nigga🎶
imagine having to check in with your pisces ogs before going to a city smh, bagging up crystals and shit
kid cudi doc on amazon
jeen-yuhs parts 2 and 3
ozark
all about love - bell hooks
as you know, I have dealt with a lot of feelings about toxic positivity, this idea that we need to show up as our “best self” to everything, not to kill the vibe even if your life feels like it’s in shambles in order to be taken seriously or be part of a group. in recent months and years, we've begun to dig at that premise, trying radical honesty and letting ourselves be vulnerable in different ways.
if that’s been stretched to it’s limit, dig into this. of course, no therapy is one size fits all but this helped me, maybe it’ll help you 🌱
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radical acceptance is a distress tolerance skill that was developed by dialectical behavioral therapy founder dr. marsha linehan.
radical acceptance says that pain is an unavoidable part of life and that fighting back against this suffering can lead to more suffering. it’s not giving in or giving up, it’s choosing a different path to understanding it.
radical acceptance can be an antidote to toxic positivity where you don’t agree with, support, or say you like the reality you’re presented with. instead, accept that you cannot change the current facts or situation, even if you don’t like/agree with it.
there are 10 steps involved in practicing radical acceptance:
1. observe that you are questioning or fighting reality. (“this isn’t fair.”)
2. remind yourself that the unpleasant reality is just as it is and cannot be changed. (“this is what happened.”)
3. remind yourself that there are causes for the reality. (“this is how things happened.”)
4. practice accepting with your whole self (mind, body, spirit). use accepting self-talk, relaxation techniques, mindfulness and/or imagery.
5. list all of the behaviors you would engage in if you did accept the facts and then practice engaging in those behaviors as if you have already accepted the facts.
6. imagine believing what you do not want to accept and rehearse in your mind what you would do if you accepted what seems unacceptable.
7. attend to body sensations as you think about what you need to accept.
8. allow disappointment, sadness, or grief to arise within you.
9. acknowledge that life can be worth living even when there is pain.
10. do pros and cons if you find yourself resisting practicing acceptance.
next week, myyuh got that fiyuh 🎶
also slide by afronihilist.com for some slick new content 🌱✌🏾
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